I was in a controlling and manipulative relationship for 16 years. I cheated in my marriage with multiple men searching for what was missing. I got caught and ultimately when I finally said I was done a domestic situation took place in front of my children ending in him taking his life.
I’ve dealt with guilt over the choices I made. I did not realize what type of relationship I was in. Until very recently I would always have chatter in my mind of the many things that were said and done to me.
One day last week I said to the inner voices. I need to let you go so that I can be happy and be the mother I need to be. I told myself it is ok to let go. The inner chatter has been silenced. When you become more aware you can change what you think.
Even when the manipulator is out of your life there is still a hold on you. Some go back, others press on, still, others choose to heal.
Be deliberate about what you think. Your intentions positive or negative determine your path.