“deprive (a man) of his male role or identity.”
“Protector”, “leader”, “teacher”
“Mom, he wants to buy a historic home that was his grandfather’s.” The state of the home needs lots of work. I’m concerned that the estimates he has in his mind to fix it so that it is livable to my standards are incorrect. She can hear it in my voice that I’m in distress over the situation. She asks do you want me to talk to him. I said no; somewhere along the way, she took it as a yes. This was the first and last time she interjected her opinion into our decisions as a couple.
In front of my husband, all I could do was cry. If I could have mustered the courage to at least ask where are the estimates of renovation from contractors, this might have started the proper conversation and lessen the future resentment.
I left the impression that I didn’t trust my husband enough to trust and allow Him to lead. Later he tells me the situation emasculated him as the leader in the relationship. He would say if you loved me, you would respect me as the man and trust that he was making the right decision.
This one situation left the relationship full of resentment. I no longer gave my opinion and I would support but not intervene.
I allowed myself to be put into a place where I relinquished control. I’ve vowed never again to be in this place.
I expect respect as I give respect.
I am confident.
I am resilient.
I am me and that ok.
I am a queen.
I am a great mother.
I am